Today our friends compare notes about caregiving. Spoiler; it isn’t just for Boomers anymore.

 


 

Millie: Hey, Boo! How was your day?

Boo: Good, thanks for asking.

Millie: What’d you do?

Boo: I spent the morning with my mom, as I usually do. I try to get her to play cards or do something that engages her mind. It’s hard because her memory loss is challenging, but I figure if I keep her mind active she might have a spark of something good now and then.

Millie: Wow, you have such a good attitude about it.

Boo: Hey, what am I gonna do? I’m lucky enough to have a flexible schedule and I get some help from my siblings and nurses we’ve hired. She took care of me. It’s my turn. And I take breaks and trips whenever I can.

Millie: Still, it’s inspiring.

Boo: Well, what about what you do with your grandmother? That’s amazing! I mean, you’re so young.

Millie: Yeah, I’m young, but you’d be surprised how many of my friends help out with caregiving. A lot of us have parents whose schedules are actually less flexible than ours. I mean, I do. Both my parents are still practicing medicine. They have patients and surgeries all day long. Me, I can work remotely and take breaks when I need to as long as I clock the hours. The world of work has changed, so, a daily visit to Grams is possible!

Boo: Yeah, that’s true. I just don’t think any of us expected our kids’ generation to be doing things for their parents and grandparents. We hoped that the system would get better and we never really dreamed you’d have hours and schedules that were so different from ours. I guess it’s kind of a mixed bag. I mean, lifespans are longer.

Millie: To me, it’s mostly positive. For me, my sister looked in on my grandmother when she was in college because they were in the same city. Now, my grandmother moved closer to the rest of us and in a way it’s a nice chance to talk to her and hear her stories before they’re lost. When I was growing up I was always so busy and she was far away.

Boo: That’s really tender-hearted of you. I gotta say, you caught me off guard there.

Millie: Well, listen, my parents have helped me out a lot and I’d never be able to make it if they hadn’t supported me as much as they did through school. The fact that I’m a young adult now and can “fill in” a bit and take a burden off of them makes me feel good. Plus, I think it’s pretty weird how people treat older people. In other cultures the elders get so much respect and attention.

Boo: Well, I couldn’t be happier to hear you say just about anything! I mean, since you’re gonna be the boss soon, that makes me the beneficiary!

Millie: Well, I’m hardly the main boss, but, um, sure! Glad I could help!

 

At Amava, we believe that age does not define us. We favor actual interactions and honest relationships over clichés like the one about Millennials and Boomers being at odds, at cultural loggerheads or at war. In real life, Millie & Boo are at the café enjoying one another’s company. The Millennial and Boomer (get it?) are two friends having conversations about things that matter—work, social issues, money, relationships, travel and more. They were nice enough to write some of it down for us so you can be entertained and perhaps enlightened by their sharing and comparing. We hope it inspires you to start conversations of your own.